Not Satisfied with Body Shape
Why a problem? Your dissatisfaction of the body can affect not only mood, but also can interfere with your relationship with him. You changed so touchy. Speech praising the one who intends, for example by saying, "How thin or fat, you still look beautiful anyway," instead you respond with a tone of annoyance, "So you mean, I'm fat?"
He's good intentions clearly not up to you. Things like this, if allowed to go on will be problems later on. According to relationship expert, dr.Alice Pisciotto, feeling ashamed of her body can lose your passion and your partner. Because, when you feel comfortable in yourself, you tend to not care about other things and this is what will destroy the meaning of closeness with your partner.
Let's fix: Try to accept your body shape, with all the advantages and drawbacks. That way you no longer think negative, when the he said that you pretty or fitness when he invites you along. In addition, be more open, if you are not comfortable with his words. And most importantly, do not ever say to yourself, that you are obese, as this will always make you feel fat.
Angry at the Wrong Time
Why a problem? Communication has become one of the most important key in a relationship. Even so, the communication should also be done in the right place and time. Especially if you want to talk about a serious problem. Grilling him with questions when he was cornered in public is not the proper way.
Let's fix: Hold your emotions when he was in the middle of the show. Wait until I got home or other places more comfortable. If you want to discuss something to him, make an appointment first. Because, talks that will suddenly make him feel intimidated. Avoid solving problems via SMS or e-mail.
Diligent in Complaining
Why be a problem? Sometimes without realizing we often complain about him. From start to his eating habits are not polite, to the busy life that makes it difficult to meet you and your partner. Even if you do it as a form of dissatisfaction with the partner, but your grief willmake it feel being in the midst of enemies who are always looking to attack with shortcomings. And this could turn him away from you, because they feel uncomfortable.
Let's fix: Occasional complained to him, because of his ignorant attitude to you, okay. But try, you do not just complain. Say what you want from it. This will make him understand what you expect from him. You do not have to complain about any behavior, because it can make it feel not good enough to be with you. Moreover, if he can receive all the advantages and disadvantages of you, why you can not accept him strengths and weaknesses?
Vengeance
Why be a problem? Have you ever reply to every thing you get from your partner. For example, when he asked to watch a DVD at home accompanied, you immediately reject it, because a week ago he could not accompanied you to a friend's birthday. You can do this once in a while, but if too often becomes an unhealthy relationship.
Let's fix: A healthy relationship can be said when you and your partner can give and receive the balance. But this does not mean you should always take revenge on him. Your attitude is like this it will make you look childish. When he refused your call, does not mean he did it on purpose. If he had given a clear reason, you should forget your resentment.
Shadowed by the Past
Why be a problem? You always have the fear your partner will make the same mistake asthe former. For example, if your ex-boyfriend once had an affair with her personal trainer at the gym, so now you will try to prevent him from going to the gym. Do you mean perhaps that the same mistakes are not repeated. But unfortunately, you make the rules without considering his feelings.
Let's fix: Actually, something like this is the basic principle of psychology, that someone will use as reference the previous problem solving new problems. However, keep in mind, you had this relationship together with a partner. So, whatever your relationship discuss the rules in advance with your partner. If necessary, provide time to discuss the problems you've experienced with the former. Perhaps his will understand your psychological condition and help find a way out.
