Richard Bugelski & Anthony M Graziano (1980) states, is feeling frustrated, angry or upsetas a result are unable to do anything because external conditions are not as desired. Frustration can also arise when a person is prevented from doing something he wanted.
Another expert, Leonard Berkowitz (1995), states that frustration is a person's internal emotional reaction when the environment is felt to obstruct or hinder the achievement of its objectives.
Sigmund Freud, psycho analysis expert, stated that in our personalities are childish part that is always demanding immediate fulfillment of all desires. When the desire "child" in our personality is blocked, we get angry or emotional behavior appeared less mature.
Based on Freud's theory, two psychologists, namely John Dollard and Neal Miller, statingthat frustration occurs when highly motivated individuals who face barriers in reaching the goal. Barrier or barriers may be physical, psychological, or symbolic.
According to their view, the desired results have been previously expected. So, people who have no hope would never have experienced the frustration.
Special Behavior
John B Watson, psychologist, stating that we were born to bring the three basic emotional patterns that are ready we show that there are appropriate stimulus. Three basic emotional patterns that are fear, anger, and love.
Emotional behavior patterns that arise due to frustration is usually in the form of anger.People who desire impeded or obstructed, his frustration will grow. His behavior becomesless directional and emotional (irritability). In fact, peaks anger can lead to aggression or violence.
Any aggressive actions are usually motivated state of frustration. However, in a state of frustration, people do not always become aggressive. Those who do not become aggressive is generally withdraw from social life, looking for other satisfactions, or become disillusioned and depressed.
Practicing tolerance
In everyday life we learn that many desirable things are not easy to achieve. When we put the expectations too high and could not reach it, which is obtained frustration. Instead, put the expectations are too low, but can reach, but underestimate it, eventually we just lose the opportunity that is not necessarily going to happen again.
To overcome the frustration, we need to have some sort of level or levels of tolerance for frustration. Tolerance to frustration should be trained from childhood.
Hopefully, in adulthood they are trained to face the disappointment and more resilientagainst frustration. In adults, frustration tolerance can be trained with a more realistic face reality and do not put too high expectations.
We also need to expand the association to raise awareness of the possibilities or other opportunities that we can actually achieve. Who knows of the little things we can develop agreat satisfaction and pride?
Many examples of great men, rich, and famous who started with little things, which we might take for granted before. Most importantly we do everything with all my heart, good, and earnestly.
