One night, the couple Ben and Linda was surprised to see Mary (14) sits in the window of their bedroom 11th floor apartment with one leg dangling out like a square off the position to leap.
After the events that almost brought disaster, they took Mary to a psychologist. Recently they know, Mary depressed because often derided "bloated" by her friends at school.
Bullying should not be considered reasonable
Actually, bullying does not only include physical violence, such as hitting, grabbing, slapping, snatching, etc, but also can take the form of verbal violence, such as cursing, mocking, gossiping, and the shape of psychological violence, such as to intimidate, isolate, discriminate.
Based on a survey of bullying treatment, most of the victims reported that they received the treatment of psychological abuse (underestimated). Physical violence, such as driven, beaten, and slapped more common among teenage boys.
There are two types of perpetrators of bullying. First, are the main actors, namely those who feel more powerful and initiate acts of violence both physically and psychologically to the victim, and the second is a follower actors, namely those taking part in bullying behavior by group solidarity, conformity, group demands, or to gain acceptance or group recognition.
Outside the offender and the victim is actually a group of witnesses, where witnesses are usually only able to let events take place quietly, doing nothing to help the victims, and often supports the bullying treatment. Witnesses tend to not want to interfere due to fear of becoming the next victim, the victim deserved bully feel, do not want to compound the problem or do not want to know.
The Journey of a child grows into adolescence the aggressor is quite complex, can be influenced by various factors: biological, psychological and social cultural. Biologically, it is possible that some children are genetically predisposed to develop aggression than other children. In his book, Developmental psychopathology, Wenar & Kerig (2002) adds that the high aggression in children can be the result of neurological abnormality.
Psychologically, aggressive children who lack self-control and in fact have low social skills; these children have a low ability of perspective-taking, empathy toward others who do not develop, and misrepresented signals or signs of social, they believe that aggression is a way of solving the problem of appropriate and effective.
If we trace from the family environment, children who develop aggressive behavior grows in the care that is not conducive; children have insecure attachments with caregivers immediate, parental discipline is too harsh or too lenient, and psychological problems are commonly found on the parent ; husband-wife conflict, depression, antisocial act, and perform acts of violence on family members.
