Sometimes we are amazed by someone who is very open to tell what he thinks, feels, and wants. Despite many difficulties or deficiencies, life as perceived as being mild, and acted without burden.
We can become more comfortable interacting with a person like that. Because it is open, we can be more open, and eventually lasted more intimate relationship and mutual trust.
However, on other occasions, sometimes the other way around. We just feel fed up with someone who is too open yourself up to things that are very personal, we think do not deserve to be told to the crowd.
Let's call him Mr. X, to friends outside the office he told how the habits that occurred in his office: that the project in his department was only 20% are operated, and the other 80% divided between management and certain employees, including himself. He was told it was not based on concerns because he was happy to take part.
At other times, Mr. X tells us that he was there for an appointment with a boss together went into private practice of a psychic for a particular purpose. Not for the affairs of other diseases or disorders, but for the launch of a goal which he did not tell. The story in the environment of people living with full ethical culture rather than create sympathy, scorn instead produce.
This also occurs in intimate conversation previously between a taxi driver (male) with a female passenger. At the end of the conversation, the passenger who previously pleased to hear the story of a taxi driver finally felt humiliated because he was recently flooded with success story of dated with a few women taxi passengers.
In addition to positive and negative conditions as described above, there are other conditions that we can make a reference to determine when and how we should open up.
In a company, Lisa (not her real name) barely laid off after nearly a year of work. The reason, not because he had no ability or irregularities, but because of family problems that interfere, so that its performance as an assistant manager of a very degenerate.
As long as the issue took place Lisa was nervous, but did not dare talk to the boss because he felt unworthy to talk about personal issues with the office. Long story short, when she was reprimanded by the boss, she finally ventured to talk, and eventually changed his superior attribution.
The manager re-placed confidence in the ability of Lisa, and he continued to provide support Lisa in overcoming. Finally, Lisa able to work more quietly because of understandable circumstances. With the boss, but still formal, well developed personal relationships that provide comfort.
Behind the top stories in the face of it we can find that self-disclosure is required, especially in long-term relationships (friendships, marriage, work, etc), and that there should be certain rules so that it is constructive self-disclosure.
